Ian is doing so much better one week post surgery. weve worked out a few kinks and gotten over the major issues. while life is definitely not "normal" and i probably wouldnt have chosen to spend the last few weeks of fall this way if we had had more options, it is feeling more manageable for sure. most days i dont feel like im going to go nuts now. well not anymore than i did pre surgery :)
im going to do a short synopsis of how each day went last week in hopes of giving other parents who might be going through the same thing a brief look into what recovery will look like. every kid is different though and even trying to be brief, its going to be long. one thing that has carried through each day: the kids are doing whatever they can to annoy each other. im not sure if rylin feels left out and ian is just cranky but for two kids who usually play really well together, id like to be able to lock them in seperate rooms so they would just stop fighting. well see if it goes back to normal once the casts are off
pre surgery & post surgery
monday october 7th : SURGERY DAY - ian came out of surgery pretty upset and immediately started crying "mama help me, take my braces off, they hurt" over and over. they gave him oxy which conked him out pretty good and he would cry for a minute and then mid sentence hed be snoring. he slept through us getting him dressed and into the car except to tell us to leave him along because he was sleeping :) - in the car he woke up once and asked for his hotwheel cars that we had got him the day before and kept asking til he got all 4 we had bought him. smart little cookie remembered all of them. everytime he woke up we would ask if he wanted something to eat, or drink, or xyz and hed just say "no thanks." he watched pbs on justins phone for a bit on the way home when we couldnt get him settled and he wouldnt go back to sleep
lots of sleeping for everyone and whatever kept him happy!
monday evening was the hardest probably. he didnt understand what was going on and was in pain from the surgery. if he was awake he would cry and repeat the "take it off" mantra over and over again with no breaks. he didnt eat much of anything. my mom tried to give him apples with peanut butter and she gave him sprinkles to decorate them hoping to encourage him to eat but he just dumped the entire bottle of sprinkles out and played with them. it did keep him happy for a solid half hour. watching rylin jump off the couch, playing with trains and cars my mom gave him and a few new episodes of "sofia the first" also kept him mostly happy during the short times he was awake. sleeping was pretty rough for the first 4 days. not alot of restful sleep for anyone.
tuesday when we got home. break your heart face
tuesday: we drove from effingham to moline tuesday morning and he slept almost the entire way. as soon as we got out, he was crying for them to come off. we got everyone inside and tried to get them to eat. i took a shower and had a small meltdown. i figure one meltdown isnt bad considering all that had transpired in a weeks time. justins mom Kim came down to help me for the next day or so and she was a huge help! either the meds they gave him or the prune juice we gave him to combat what we thought would happen from the meds (constipation) gave him some really awful BM's for the next two days. that was not fun. we watched cars and tried to nap. anything to keep him occupied and his mind busy. if he had to be still with no outside stimulation, he was crying and repeating the mantra. he still didnt eat much of anything that day. nana and papaw being there was a big help but truthfully most of tuesday is a blur. no interest in crawling, walking, or pulling up on the legs which we didnt push.
wednesday night: much happier boy, even being a little silly
wednesday: october 9th - much better day overall. we started trying to wean him from his meds a little. nana ratted him out and let us know that most of his crying seemed to be manipulation at this point to get what he wanted. :) sad but true. he would only start crying if he didnt want to do something. justin and i had a mini date for my last ultrasound appt, chiropractor appt, and we even registered at the hospital! and he treated me to starbucks :) i really wish we had gotten a picture of the two of us! nana headed home since i thought i could handle it. later at dinner that night was the hardest part of the day. sobbing, shaking, crying the mantra for a solid half hour. couldnt calm him down so we took a car ride and he seemed pretty happy after that. we rented a new movie and that kept him happy til he fell asleep. everyone in our bed again. while this is not ideal, its giving everyone as much sleep as possible.
thursday: october 10th - (from facebook status) Today has been both better and worse than yesterday. Ian got to go to preschool so that was a good distraction for him for a couple hours and gave him and Ry some separation. Preschool went well! all the kids and teachers were happy to see him. it seemed to improve his mood a bit and he was pretty worn out after.
We all took a good walk (wagon) and nap. But we are cutting back his pain meds to just nighttime so anytime he is still (meals & naps) he has a hard time relaxing and goes into full on panic mode: crying, shaking, screaming they hurt. We know they don't technically "hurt", they are just annoying and uncomfortable but it doesn't make it easier. My house is overwhelming me. I used to be able to ignore the messes much easier. Now I just want to pull an all nighter to get it back in order but I'd have to find the energy reserve first. Each day will be a little closer to "normal" and we are already down half a week! 2.5 To go!
i made everyone go to bed in their own beds that night and they stayed for the most part. i got out of the bath to find ian like the below picture. i dont know if he couldnt get back in or if it was just comfortable. sometimes he sleeps like that even when not in braces/casts. when i put him back in bed he reached his hand up and said "got it!" he was playing baseball in his sleep - cant with the casts on so at least he could in his dreams
friday: both kiddos woke up in our bed pretty happy. it was nice compared to the usual crying thats been taking place lately. we got up and got dressed and had a nice morning at home just relaxing and playing. we went to my chiropractic appointment and then took the kids to wendys for lunch. we met nana and she took the kids back to her house so i could have a break and get the house clean and so justin and i could have a date on saturday. ian kept saying "mama you come witch me? i want you to come" which made me both happy and sad. glad that he wants me there and sad that i was choosing some piece of mind over going too. but they had a great time with nana and got to do nothing but fun stuff all day. i got the house back in order, got a pedicure, walked around target by myself in the quiet and justin and i both slept as much as we wanted friday night. it was very needed and i am very grateful for nana! he actually ate a pretty decent lunch this day but picked through nana.
friday morning & fun day with nana
saturday: nana said ian had trouble sleeping friday night and she had to turn a movie on to get him to calm down. he went without meds because we forgot to pack them but she said he wasnt in pain, just restless. he was worn out from playing outside all day but im so glad he got so much fresh air! thats one thing that has really bothered me about this. we are most likely in our last days of nice weather and i physically cant take both of them outside, at least not easily or very safely for myself and peanut. rylin is kind of crazy and can move much faster than i can at this point and so from a safety standpoint, i cant reach out and grab her quickly if needed. and ian is soo heavy with the casts on and i have to manipulate and be very careful about how i pick him up just so that i dont strain myself. and this pelvic girdle pain doesnt help. so we have to save our outside trips for when someone else is around to help.
saturday -rylin all tuckered out and ian fell asleep on me that night
justin and i had a quiet morning of just piddling around the house and then went to a restaurant in davenport called "the boathouse." we intentionally left our phones in the car which i kind of regretted because that means i didnt get a single picture of the two of us on our "anniversary date." but we had a really good time and it was right on the river. it was a beautiful day and we headed to dubuque and enjoyed talking with each other in the car without interruption. after not being able to figure out what we wanted to do the rest of the day, we headed to his moms to see the kiddos and just hang. which turned into a good thing because justin and his dad started working on ians walker (thanks to kim(nana) for thinking up this great idea!) another post coming on it.
helping ian try it out and snuggling with nanan watching a movie saturday
sunday : we went to church with justins family and ian enjoyed getting to do sunday school with aunt allie and cora. he was playing well when i checked on him a few times he ate a decent lunch but had to be coaxed through it. he wasnt as interested in his walker as much as we hoped but he will get there. we had coras birthday party and he got to have lots of fun and happy cake with her and rylin. lots of playing outside today too which was good. he ruined 2 pairs of sweats this weekend! he ate a really good dinner that night. i think his appetite is finally coming back.
after a week ian is pretty much back to his usual temperment and getting used to his new "normal" he can crawl pretty quick with the casts and sometimes wants the walker but sometimes doesnt. mostly hed prefer to be carried around but mama cant do that with this baby and her back/hip issues and the weight he is so he gets tough loved sometimes. his appetite and sleep are mostly back to normal. he does get a little more restless at night and usually ends up in our bed at some point (though this is pretty normal too). he seems very comfortable in the car. i think the position of his carseat helps relieve some of the pressure of the casts. we are watching the tops of his casts because it seems the padding is wearing down and they will start rubbing around his thighs, which will be painful so we will have to fix that up. and as always, we have to watch his toes to make sure they are getting good blood flow and not injured in any way. so it seems it takes about a week to get back to "normal"
see last years posts about ians casts below